5 New Year's Resolutions to Help You Meet Someone in 2017
It’s the new year again and that means everyone’s favorite activity - New Years resolutions.
Work out more. Eat better. Quit smoking. Pick up a new hobby. Find love?
You can promise to head to the gym more or swap out your fries for a side salad, but resolving to find love is more of a challenge - it doesn’t really work until it works - and it can be hard to know where to start.
So here are 5 resolutions you can make (and keep) to help you meet someone special in 2017.
1. Ditch the Bars
Want to meet someone genuine and honest this year? Don’t go to a bar. We might think of bars as the cliche starts of so many relationships, but studies prove otherwise.
Only 2% of men and 9% of women have ever formed a relationship with someone they met at a bar. Bars are great for chasing beers after work, but you probably won’t meet your future beau at one.
A better way to meet someone? That brings us to #2.
2. Join an online dating site
If you’re not already on a dating site, this bit of advice is kind of a no brainer. Online dating is only becoming more and more popular, and is now the second most common way to meet someone (the first being set up by a friend). And because it’s such a great way to meet people there’s a site for every flavor.
If you’re after a bit more substance than what some of the other dating sites offer, try Zoosk. The site's unique algorithm gets to know exactly what you want in a partner and offers matches based on that. And for an added bonus, Zoosk also has great security features like Photo Verification which keeps scammers and fakes off the site.
If you’re a numbers person and want a popular site, try Elite Singles, which has millions of users worldwide.
3. Breathe fresh air into the dating process
If you’re already on a dating site, and it hasn’t worked well for you in the past, there are lots of helpful ways to breathe fresh air into the online dating world in 2017.
Photos & Bio - If your photos are more than a year old, now’s a good time to swap them out for some more recent pics. And if your bio hasn’t been updated in a while try adding some new information. Just tweaking your profile a little will reinvigorate the whole process. Also, the more often you change your profile, the higher you’ll come up in search results.
Messages - If you’re not sending any opening, introductory messages it’s time to get started. Sitting back and waiting for someone to message you is the online equivalent of walking into a party and standing in the corner the entire time. Put yourself out there and be proactive and you’ll be surprised by the positive results you’ll get.
Try a new site - OkCupid hasn’t been working for you? Maybe it’s time to switch things up and head over to Match.com. Not all dating sites are created equal. So your experience on one probably won’t reflect your experience on another. Which is why it’s good to be patient and give things a chance, but it’s also great knowing there are so many options out there.
4. Reevaluate your own relationship ideals
Most singles think they have a clear idea of what they’re looking for in a partner, but studies show different. More than 30% of people surveyed have seriously dated someone they previously rejected and 40% of people indicated they’ve had a long term relationship with someone they were initially hesitant to go on a second date with.
The new year is a good time to reassess what it is you’re looking for in another person. Maybe some things you thought were deal breakers - height, age or kids - no longer apply. Maybe it’s about spending less time looking through profile pictures and more time reading bios and really getting to know potential matches. If something isn’t working, now’s the time to scratch it and start over.
5. Set goals
Just like any other new year's resolution, it’s a good idea to set small goals to keep yourself on track.
It’s a lot easier to measure your progress when it comes to losing weight or cutting back on alcohol, but you can still set relationship goals for yourself.
Try sending at least one message a week, vow to go on one first date every other week and say yes to a second date even if there weren’t fireworks on the first.
Another good goal is to vow to share more about your dating experiences with friends, family or coworkers. Being open to advice and letting others into the process will help put things into perspective and will help you stay positive.
Now that you’re equipped with these tips it’s time to get out there and start dating. Check out our reviews of the best dating sites and find what works for you.