The 7 Dating Struggles of Women Who Overthink Everything


We all want carefree love but for some of us our own head just gets in the way and doesn’t let up. 


Ladies, I know you can relate to some of these. And men, maybe take note and next time don't wait three days to text her back...


1. Can Someone Else Create Our Dating Profile?

For an overthinker, deciding on the best photo, or best response to a question, or even an extra quote to make your profile stand out can be overwhelming. 


On relationship-oriented sites, like Zoosk​, the profile is what makes you stand out from the crowd, and there’s a lot of room for you to really put your personality on the page.


So ladies, get a friend to help with the profile. It’ll save a lot of time.

2. Please Don’t Interview Us on the First Date 

How about we swap the small talk for something a little more...stimulating? Anything to get us out of our head and interested in what's going on in front of us. 


A dating site like Elite Singles, which is tailored to career-driven singles, might be the best place to head to for intellectual conversation that definitely won’t leave you thinking about that encounter you had with a coworker earlier in the day. 

3. Every Text Message Gets Dissected with a Fine-Tooth Comb

Overthinkers are masters of reading between the lines. Nothing is ever as it seems.


A smiley face, a period, even the amount of text a guy sends - they’re all little clues to something else that’s going on.


4. Waiting to Respond is a Game We Won’t Play

Not getting a message back right away turns the alert on in our mind and we start to wonder why he hasn’t texted.


Maybe he’s not interested? Maybe there’s another woman? Maybe he lost his phone? 


And then when he finally does respond were already over it because we’ve spent the past four hours assuming he’s not interested enough to respond.


All of this can be saved with a simple, “a little busy, can I message you later?”

5. Actually, We Hate All Games.

The worst is when you have a great date and the guy doesn’t text the next day. You start considering maybe I thought the date was more fun than it actually was.


Was I talking too much? Was he just interested in something short and quick?


The “wait three days to call” rule? Not appreciated. 

6. Can’t You Just Pick the Bar?

Overthinking makes for indecisiveness. But that doesn’t mean we don’t care or have opinions or ideas. We just have too many.


Which is why it’s nice to be given a day off from taking the lead and have someone else call the shots for a change.


So men, pick the date spot please. 

7. Why Can’t Men Say What they Feel?

Overthinkers need men who are straightforward and aren’t afraid to share their emotions. So men, say what you’re feeling and say what you mean.


Because anything else will leave us assessing a situation from every angle instead of being confident in your feelings and our own. 


Yes, sometimes dating is a struggle. But it doesn’t have to be. Try heading online to a site like Zoosk​ and discover a better way to date. 

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