My Anti-Resolutions: 7 Things I Won’t Do For Love In 2018
I would do anything for love...but I won’t do that
Resolutions are great and all, but they’re damn hard to stick to, aren’t they?
Because resolutions = pressure.
How about we flip things around, and create a list of things we’ll promise to stop doing?
That’s a little easier, right?
When it comes to love, next year...
1. I will not base my worth on the person who is or is not standing next to me
Your value doesn’t stem from your relationships. Understand how amazing you are as an individual - every part of you. Focus on the things you have to be grateful for, instead of what's missing.
2. I will not let rejection get the best of me
Rejection happens to everyone. Everyone. The natural course is to internalize it and believe you’re unlovable. But it can only have an impact if you allow it to. Brush it off and acknowledge that rejection is simply leading you one step closer to your person.
3. I will not keep doing the same thing I've been doing
This year, why not take a chance and try to do things a little differently? Go on that blind date, talk to that cute stranger you see on your commute each day, make the first move. What have you got to lose by taking the reigns of your life, and simply seeing what happens?
Same goes for online dating. If you're one of the last holdouts, why not give it a try. If you've already been on a site but haven't been wowed by the experience, switch things up.
If you want to avoid the swipe-heavy nature of online dating, try a site like Zoosk, which places a higher emphasis on compatible connections.
Zoosk's Behavioral Matchmaking gets to know your habits - likes and dislikes - and offers matches accordingly. It’s designed to gauge your own personality, and what you’re looking for, and then match you with someone you’d get along with.
Or try Elite Singles, which is aimed at career-driven daters who are too busy to spend hours swiping through profiles. The site’s personality pairing helps you cut through the crowd and head straight to the people you're most compatible with.
4. I will not change who I am to fit somebody else’s ideal
Just because others have found their person, it doesn’t mean they’ve left you behind - you are not in a competition with anyone apart from you. If you’re happy, that’s all that matters. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for being single, especially not yourself.
5. I will not settle for less than
When it comes to love, you deserve someone who is always there for you, through the good times and the bad; someone who is kind, loving, and honest; someone who gives as much as you do, and someone who inspires and encourages you to be better every single day.
Never ever settle. Not in life, and not in love.
6. I will stop caring about the ones who don't deserve my attention
Cut ties with the “filler” partners who occupy your attention in lonely moments but can’t fulfill you or give you the things you need. Get comfortable being completely single, and you’ll be more open and excited when the right one comes along.
7. I will not obsess over finding love
This year will be about so much more than that. This year will be about learning who you are even deeper than the last. This year will be about growing, transforming, and awakening. This year will be dedicated to falling in love… with yourself, with possibility, and with wonder.
You can't rush love. But you can put yourself in the best place to see it and accept it when it does come rushing in.
One thing you can do for love in 2018? Head over to Zoosk today. Their smart matching may just be the key to making online dating work for you.