4 Simple Resolutions to Help You Find Love in 2018
Finding love is complicated, because people are complicated. We are all looking for connections, yet we come into new relationships with our own unique set of built-in resistances, pushing back against our ideas of happiness.
But 2018 will be different.
Here are 4 rules for the new year, to help get you to the best place to find and accept love.
1. I will remember that a little self love goes a long way
Many of us crave love while subconsciously driving it away - usually based on a conviction that we are, for whatever reason, unlovable.
It’s such a simple concept - If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect anybody else to? And the change can be as simple as making a mental shift. But it’s a necessary change if you want to be ready for that person to come into your life.
2. I will put down the flashlight and pick up the mirror
Lest we push the self love mantra forever, we’ll make this brief - the more you love yourself, the more you will accept and love others. We’re all flawed in some way, but instead of picking apart every man who comes your way, try to ascertain why you make certain judgements.
As Gay Hendricks writes in his self-help book The Big Leap, “You can learn a lot more with a spirit of wonder and enjoyment than you can with an attitude of criticism.”
3. I will put myself in the best place to find love
Leave any passive attitudes towards your love life in 2017, because while no one can predict when love will hit, you can put yourself in the best places to find it.
A big (and often inevitable) part of actively finding love is signing up for a dating site. But not all dating sites are created equal - so when you choose a site, be sure it fits what you’re looking for.
If you want to avoid the overwhelming nature of swipe-heavy sites, try a dating site like Zoosk, which places a higher emphasis on genuine connections.
The site’s Behavioral Matchmaking gets to know your habits - likes and dislikes - and offers matches accordingly. It’s designed to gauge your own personality, and what you’re looking for, and then match you with someone you’d get along with.
The dating site Match has tons of meetup events in major cities - so even if online dating isn't your thing, there are options. You just have to look for them.
4. I will try to get used to the highs and lows - and enjoy the ride
Finding love is like a pendulum of swinging emotions - the highs of curiosity, excitement and intrigue, followed by the lows of disappointment and despondency. Allow the conviction that love is out there to get you through the low points.
All that’s left to say now is...happy dating.
Ready to try out some of our tips? Head over to Zoosk today. Their smart matching may just be the key to making online dating work for you.